So I look up mean. Here is what I got from Merriam-Webster:
1 a : to have in the mind as a purpose : intend
2 : to serve or intend to convey, show, or indicate : signify
3 : to have importance to the degree of
4 : to direct to a particular individual
I gotta say it makes me feel better. It validates that what I am asking them to do isn't unrealistic or too demanding. Since when is demanding someone's best a sign of meaness. Well according to Merriam-Webster it isn't a bad thing!! Thanks M-W... I needed that! I can wear my mean-ness with pride.